Destiny

Destiny implies we are headed somewhere, a destination; and that suggests purpose and planning. A fatalistic view of our own existence that excludes free-will; leaving us with the notion of a start point and end point with little to do except keep moving.

In opposition to this is the almost Darwinian idea that we were born by happenstance and through good instincts manage to dodge all the pitfalls of life in order to reach old age. This is a sort of chaos management that relies heavily on chance and our natural survival skills. It allows us to think that we are in charge.

What if life is both; after all, where does it say there are only the two choices?

Spirit-being-human actually gives us the necessary mechanics to make a blended option work. Darwin's idea of natural selection was applied to the living world he saw around himself; he saw how things mutate to fit the conditions, how any creature fits comfortably into the 'food chain' of life. Then he applied that same reasoning to Man, and it has never really sat well even for him.

Spirit, us, is essentially immortal, it doesn't conform to three dimensional mass and doesn't require a three dimensional world in order to continue existing. Spirit is an explorer, an interloper into this Universe that seeks only to experience. That's all!

What does it seek to experience, what is its mission? It seeks life... solid, touchable, finite life. It wants the sensation of Being three dimensional; pain, sorrow, joy and death are just grist to its mill of experience.

And spirit keeps coming back time after time, reincarnating for more experience of being human. Hey! Why don't we just keep the same bodies? Well, that means we only have one viewpoint on life, moving around gives us more opportunities to experience the same thing in different ways.

Spirit knows what it wants in any given life, its in no hurry so it doesn't have to cram it all into 70 years. So it looks at what that life has a potential for and plans accordingly.

Let's look at a couple of ideas on planning -

1. time specific incident. This is where spirit says 'I need this to happen right then'.
2. non specific incident. Spirit is like 'yeah, this needs to happen whenever convenient'

So, I say to you 'next Thursday we're going to a concert at 8pm'; now we are time specific. However I haven't said what you have to do between now and then, you have free will to do whatever as long as you stay alive and get to that concert. Only the concert is destiny, how you got there was free will.

Now imagine 6 of those -
1. break your leg at 8 yrs old
2. first girl/boyfriend will be Julie/Jim from college
3. first child at 27
4. divorce at 52
5. car crash 59
6. death 63

These 6 things WILL happen at those times irrespective of what you do to avoid it, that's destiny. How you meander through the intervening years is your choice, so there's only you to blame if its proving difficult. Now add in some non-specific moments -

a. get married twice
b. get mugged
c. win lottery
d. get cheated on

These things can fit anywhere into the fixed specific events without any seeming logic. So marriage can come after the children, you could be mugged at school for your lunch money or at 60 for your pension. Doesn't matter to spirit.

You may be destined to get married, but once that ring is on destiny has done its job and you may be on free will time. You may win the lottery, as soon as that cheque is banked destiny is out the window and its now up to you what you do with it.

It could even work the other way around. You win the lottery at 32 by pure chance but are destined to be bankrupt at 35; oh my! You are definitely going to cuss Lady Luck for not hanging on 5 years.

At the point of destiny's obligation you will have to conform to the requirements that you, as spirit, laid down for this incident. And that can appear cruel and painful, or even miraculous.

Can we tell a destiny moment? I don't know... maybe yes, you turned off your normal route and bang a truck hits you. Could be that destiny said you would be on that road and not the one you chose by chance each day.

Should we worry about destiny?

What for, its going to happen anyway so sit back and enjoy the ride.